To close the saga, I arranged 30 second meeting with Director today. Enough time to say: "I apologize for the misunderstanding caused during the last week".
Though, as MirrorMan predicted in his comment->objective 2, Director didn't wanted me to just leave at that and was in deed keen to have the chat. I was rather reluctant to say anything, and at first, I was just listening to her justifying her reasons again for not approving the exception.
Then, as she went dribbling on about the importance of communication, family-like closeness amongst the staff, equalities, fairness, and not-taking things personally, my flesh-bulb flashed, and I realized something that Director I have in common: idealism seem to be a strong trait of our personalities.
I thought to myself, something along the lines of: Ok then, if you really wish to talk and since you are not telling me anything new' and said: 'Don't take this the wrong way, but why do you think I came here to apologize?' After she reverted back for a while to the topic of 'why I cannot skip graduation' - maybe a tendency to act super blur - she slowly came to the word 'threat'.
We had a quite a prolonged chat, involving communication, the cultural differences, adaptation, learning, pursuit of ideals, and of course my deep, hard to understand, mumbling, sexy (one +ve one :) voice. In regards to the topic, I've seen that her main concern, rightly so, was that after the incident, I'll shy away from communicating with her and the rest of the management. She didn't want me to have a 'wrong' perception.
We also established that the mis-communication really started to take shape when she included the lines that implied the joke during our conversation, while paraphrasing what was discussed to my RO. Though, same as for the previous two incidents of similar nature I went though since the arrival, I am to blame, as those lines initially came out of my mouth.
We shook hands on it, and I got another tap on the shoulder. As only it can be on a 'payed holiday', it's all okLah...!
Ps: If I feel as sincerely bout the below eM tomorrow, as I do now, I'll send it even though it sounds like brown-nosing-corporate mumbo-jumbo :
Hi D,
Again, thanks for the chat.
Though, once more, let me reiterate that after RO spoke to me last Friday, from my perspective, everything was fine regarding the happening of the week; and as I've said to PA, I just wanted to have 30 seconds of your time to apologize for it, as it was me who caused it.
None the less, as a bonus, thanks to your willingness to talk things over, I feel more confident that you stand behind the ideals that you communicate, and I wish you best of luck and courage in steering the ICT ship in that direction.
Sincerely,
Z
UPDATE - Director's reply:
It's you guys that keep me and our ICT ship going despite the various challenges ;)
Though, as MirrorMan predicted in his comment->objective 2, Director didn't wanted me to just leave at that and was in deed keen to have the chat. I was rather reluctant to say anything, and at first, I was just listening to her justifying her reasons again for not approving the exception.
Then, as she went dribbling on about the importance of communication, family-like closeness amongst the staff, equalities, fairness, and not-taking things personally, my flesh-bulb flashed, and I realized something that Director I have in common: idealism seem to be a strong trait of our personalities.
I thought to myself, something along the lines of: Ok then, if you really wish to talk and since you are not telling me anything new' and said: 'Don't take this the wrong way, but why do you think I came here to apologize?' After she reverted back for a while to the topic of 'why I cannot skip graduation' - maybe a tendency to act super blur - she slowly came to the word 'threat'.
We had a quite a prolonged chat, involving communication, the cultural differences, adaptation, learning, pursuit of ideals, and of course my deep, hard to understand, mumbling, sexy (one +ve one :) voice. In regards to the topic, I've seen that her main concern, rightly so, was that after the incident, I'll shy away from communicating with her and the rest of the management. She didn't want me to have a 'wrong' perception.
We also established that the mis-communication really started to take shape when she included the lines that implied the joke during our conversation, while paraphrasing what was discussed to my RO. Though, same as for the previous two incidents of similar nature I went though since the arrival, I am to blame, as those lines initially came out of my mouth.
We shook hands on it, and I got another tap on the shoulder. As only it can be on a 'payed holiday', it's all okLah...!
Ps: If I feel as sincerely bout the below eM tomorrow, as I do now, I'll send it even though it sounds like brown-nosing-corporate mumbo-jumbo :
Hi D,
Again, thanks for the chat.
Though, once more, let me reiterate that after RO spoke to me last Friday, from my perspective, everything was fine regarding the happening of the week; and as I've said to PA, I just wanted to have 30 seconds of your time to apologize for it, as it was me who caused it.
None the less, as a bonus, thanks to your willingness to talk things over, I feel more confident that you stand behind the ideals that you communicate, and I wish you best of luck and courage in steering the ICT ship in that direction.
Sincerely,
Z
UPDATE - Director's reply:
It's you guys that keep me and our ICT ship going despite the various challenges ;)